End of Summer Blues

It’s August, and for many people it’s a much too early reminder that summer is over.   Fall clothes are in the stores; many schools and colleges will be in session before the month is out.  And maybe you have a friend who feels that he didn’t make the most of the warmer season while he still could.

He may feel that summer is about fishing, for example, and this year he was working too hard to get out to his favorite fishing hole.  Or maybe it’s the season for his family vacation, and the kids were getting too old to be interested in going with him.   Perhaps he would have liked to do some water-skiing, but didn’t have the budget for it this year.

How can you help?  First, you can help by listening, allowing him to air his frustration.  Then, you can help by empathizing: “I’m sorry that you didn’t have the summer you wanted to have.”  Finally, you can help by strategizing some ways to capture what’s left of summer and to spread it out over the course of the year.

First, ask him to tell you exactly what summer means to him: this may differ a lot from what it means to you.  If what he most enjoys about summer is more time outdoors, you can ask if he wants to make a Saturday walk or Sunday drive part of his routine, starting now.  If he associates summer with more leisure time, you can help him consider a weekly trip to the movies or an evening to hang out with friends.   If he enjoys the sun and fears the days of dark and cold, he may want to research Seasonal Affective Disorder and start using a natural light therapy lamp.

Ah, summer!

Don’t forget to enjoy your own summer pleasures.

There’s a good chance you’ll inspire your friend to discover that summer isn’t over till it’s over.